I’m sure from the title you are assuming this is going to be another “self-love” post. Trust me, it isn’t. Unless you count bettering your life “self-love” then it would be, but be warned this isn’t for comfort seekers who enjoy feel good motivation.
In order to better yourself, it has become increasingly more important that you learn how to do one thing, shut up. That’s right. You need to stop talking and stop thinking. So many people that I talk to these days when I’m helping them say one thing, “I’m always overthinking things.” “I’m always replaying things in my head.”
It became violently apparent to me that people are experiencing this state of constant worry due to lack of confidence. What they often don’t realize is that their lack of confidence is due to their incessant worry. That worry that they feel is partially due to their lack of confidence (isn’t that a fun loop!) but it is also due to the fact that they are afraid of being alone with themselves. I claim that they are afraid to be alone with themselves because they are always occupying their time with conscious deliberate thoughts, social media, Netflix, and possibly even reading these words.
So, how do we fix it? Here is exactly how we fix it. Turn off the music, put down the computer, put down the book, get rid of distraction, and just sit down. Don’t try not to think, don’t try to stop doing anything. The only thing you need to do is sit comfortably and breathe. Eventually what you’ll find is that your mind, which may be jumping from topic to topic, will eventually quiet itself. You need to try this for at least 15 minutes. In that 15 minutes what you’ll hear is the gift of intellectual silence. The gift of nothing.
Yes, this will even quiet your overthinking because what you’ll realize after ,having sat there long enough, is that your overthinking is just a way of distracting yourself. You are inventing imaginary excitement as a form of escape and excuse. Once you become well acquainted with a silent mind you’ll focus on how much more you allow yourself to experience without the constant pounding of worry in your head.
By allowing yourself time to just sit and be quiet then you will also allow yourself to begin to function at your best. This means that you will finally allow yourself to function off of your preconditioned instincts. Functioning off of your instincts allows you to do so much more because it frees up conscious thought to be used on things it should be used on. Can you imagine what you’d be able to accomplish if that voice in your head wasn’t constantly pointing out all of the things that could go wrong?
That being said, always remember to allow yourself to shut up for 15 minutes a day and see what happens.
That’s all for now friends, thank you.